that divorce is never an option, you will be motivated to work harder at having a good marriage. • Vow not to let your emotions lead you to say things you will regret. You are most vulnerable to the one you confide in most—spouses know how to hurt each other. If you feel unable to restrain your sharp tongue in an argument, wait until you have cooled off and can talk reasonably. • Learn how to say, “I’m sorry.” Often I say I’m sorry not because I think I was in the wrong, but because the argument